Giving Thanks at the end of Ramadhan

This was a very successful, enjoyable and spiritual event, living up to our expectations and the confidence of the Inlight Trust in providing the funding. Men from across the country, including Wales, converged on St Deiniol’s Library from Birmingham, Brighton, Burnley, Dorking, Leighton Buzzard, London, Manchester, Merthyr Tydfil, Nottingham.and Rochester.

Tony Aylward, a Baptist from Rochester wrote the following account.

Christians Reflections

I went on this retreat with great expectation as I believe God wanted me to be there.  It was entitled ‘In the Footsteps of Abraham’ and my hope was that it would inspire my thinking on male spirituality and also renew my contact with Muslims following my departure from Leicester. It was a small gathering of 13, 6 Christian and 7 Muslims and was led by Symon Hill and Abdullah Trevathan.  We looked at 3 areas:

• The life of Abraham in the Qur’an and Bible
• Dealing with conflict
• Being Male

We shared worship in the form of meditation/reflection using Muslim chants from the Sufi tradition and Christian ones from Taize and Iona.

When we drew up a list of Abraham’s character from our scriptures, we discovered that many of them were the same.  Key ones from both texts which we identified were:

• Spiritual wayfarer
• Absolute faith
• Friend of God

One major difference in respect to Abraham was that in the Muslim tradition all prophets are without sin whereas in the Christian tradition only Jesus is without sin and so the prophets are flawed people.

We spent some time thinking about Abraham the Absurd, defining ‘absurd’ as not normal or ordinary.  As people of faith we are called to be an extraordinary people.  By being together as Christians and Muslims for this retreat we were being absurd.  We were challenged as to whether we had become to cosy in our faith and not therefore taking risks.  Are we going through the motions of faith without it really affecting the way we live our lives?

The conflict resolution sessions were very helpful in enabling us to think about the root causes and not just the reasons people often give for their positions.  We looked at a diagram that required us to think about where we were in relation to personal goals as against relationships when dealing with an issue of conflict.  Although compromise in some cases is the only way we were encouraged to try problem solving the issue to see if there is a better way for the parties involved.  I was not alone in finding how ready as a group we were to accept the very different issues between our faiths.  Perhaps that said more about the participants who were more focused on areas of agreement.

The final session on male identity caused the most discussion as we completed a questionnaire expressing how important certain criteria were to our identity.  What was striking for me was the relative passion that people gave to particular headings.  We considered whether our responses would have been the same had there been a woman present, for which the majority view was that it would.

The question of what are male characteristics is a problem area when it comes to looking at male spirituality.  Draw up a list and there will be people who disagree with you.  I am a firm believer that at times this is because men may not like a particular trait or they believe they do not portray it.  The walk we had on the Saturday afternoon was a wonderful demonstration of a male trait in action.  We had identified of Abraham that he was focused and indicated that this was a male attribute.  On the walk we talked, mainly in pairs but on occasions in single file.  We maintained a brisk pace rarely stopping to take in the creation around us.  We even managed to be blissfully unaware of ‘Private’ notices.  Now that is what I call focused!

Overall it was a great experience of men sharing the journey of faith.  For me the translation of the Muslim chant ‘La ilaha ill’allah’ as ‘There is nothing but God; there is only God’ called me to refocus my life on the things of God.  To daily ask the question ‘what will God do with me today rather than what will I do today?’

Tony Aylward

Muslim Reflections

We were all deeply committed to dialogue since for us it’s a Divine imperative yet we felt that we must also be witnessing the special God-given gift of Islam.

• There was a commitment to dialogue and a sense of being generous to the Christians and no inner tension in doing so.
• In the Qur’an God affirms  human diversity and pluralism. All are presented as ‘the family of God’ therefore I as a Muslim must show love and respect to all.
• Our experiential dialogue involved discussions, zikr, and Muslims praying in jamaat [congregation] helped to build understanding and trust of each other. It was an antidote to the inadequate, misleading or stereotyping images that lead to ignorance and demonising the other.
• There was genuine sense of friendship, understanding and respect for each other’s beliefs despite it being challenging.
• There was no attempt by anyone to compromise, dilute or be disingenuous to their faith. We agreed to disagree and accept the difference – yet all showed willingness to understand others’ points of view.
• The feeling created in encounter was that we can work in partnership with Christians for the common good, peace and social cohesion. As John Wesley said, ‘that though we cannot think alike yet we may love alike, that we may be of one heart though we are not of one opinion’ [from his sermon ‘Catholic Spirit’].

Imam Musharraf Hussain

What Next?

Many thanks to all who took part, the retreat leaders, Tony and Musharraf for their reflections. We would like to hold another retreat and have an invitation to an Islamic retreat centre in Spain. If you are interested in being involved in exploring Christian-Muslim men’s spirituality please get in touch.

We are also organising a women’s retreat for London-based Christian and Muslim women on 31 July/1 August in Kent. Please contact us for more details.

Julian Bond
Director